MAMÁ CITA PODCAST
  • Home
  • About
  • Podcast Blog
  • Connect & Stream
  • Mamá Cita Gear
  • Sponsor

The Mamacita confessions

3/18/2021

0 Comments

 
Picture
In the Latina motherhood system the seven deadly sins are considered especially heinous. In Southern California, the dedicated podcasters who confess these scandalous stories are members of an elite squad known as the Mamá Cita Podcast.
​
These are their stories.
 
But all joking aside, at my son’s school they ask the kids “are you making good choices?” so that they will take a moment before acting. In some of the very dumb situations I have put myself in, I wish I would have had this type of question ingrained in me. I have been a very cautious and conscientious person, but even then, I have definitely committed all of the seven deadly sins, to various degrees of course. I acknowledge that it is only out of sheer luck that I am alive today to share the stories of my questionable decisions with my children.
 
What are some things you’ve done that you hope your kids will never do?
Do you have actual regrets about these actions?
Will you be open and share your questionable decisions with your kids in the hopes that they will do better?

Would love to hear from you!
XO,
Wendy

0 Comments

Good Girls

3/11/2021

0 Comments

 
Picture
​What does this even mean? I guess I have been a good girl because I have been a good person, but I know that the connotation of this phrase is much more weighted. It has the patriarchy written all over it. It is dripping with sexual undertones. It screams cultural gender norms at me. This is not a phrase I ever use with my daughter. It is a phrase I would employ in the presence of a dog and even then, I would prefer to use the dog’s name.
 
I understand how it can be an automatic phrase used when parenting. It is a seemingly simple phrase that kids can understand. But good and bad, boy and girl, black and white are not simplistic opposites. They are very nuanced and complex terms. I am not saying that I know what would be a better alternative. In parenting I am really just trying my best but mostly making it up as I go along. All I know in regards to the phrase “good girl,” or more specifically, “be a good girl,” is that I do not use it.
 
Usually I have written about a topic before we talk about it on the podcast. This episode was improvised. Honestly I do not remember much of what was said except that the reason I never use the “be a good girl” phrase, is because it is confusing. Be a good girl means do not do bad things. Why not just say “don’t do…” fill in the blank? I also never use this phrase because I do not want my daughter to equate actions that are seen as “bad” as descriptions of her character. The action may be bad, but she is not, therefore she does not have to be a "good girl" or be anything really. She can just be herself. 

In Spanish there is no phrase that is used in parenting that is the exact translation of "be a good girl." We say "portate bien," which translates to "behave well." I definitely use that phrase often, but I don't use it as a threat the way my mother would use it, engaging a stern voice and a severe gaze. Rather, I use it as a friendly reminder.  

Do you find yourself using the phrase "be a good girl," with your daughter?
What are you really trying to say when you use this phrase?
Is this something your mother said to you?

Would love to hear from you!
XO,
​Wendy
 


0 Comments

    Author

    Wendy writes blog posts that turn into conversations for the Mamá Cita Podcast.

    Archives

    May 2021
    April 2021
    March 2021
    February 2021
    January 2021
    December 2020

    Categories

    All
    15 Year Old Birthday
    1980's Board Games
    7 Deadly Sins
    Bad Girls
    Bad Moms
    Be A Good Girl
    Becoming A Mom
    Before We Had Kids
    Birth Story
    Brujeria
    Children Watching TV
    Chronic Disease
    Cooking
    Culturally Catholic
    Curandera
    Dia Del Amor Y La Amistad
    Doing It All
    Drowning In Kid Stuff
    Eating
    Ethnic Identity
    Evil Eye
    Fast Food
    First Time Moms
    Food
    Gender
    Gender Fluid
    Gender Roles
    Gender Stereotypes
    Girls And Boys
    Good Girls
    Good Girls Vs Bad Girls
    Grandchildren
    Grandparents
    Grandparents And Grandchildren
    Growing Up Latina
    Hard To Make Friends
    Having It All
    Healthy Diet
    Heartthrob The Dating Game
    Hispanic
    Hoarders
    IPad
    Kids And Gender
    Kids And Screen Time
    Kids And The IPad
    Kids Mess
    Kid Stuff Everywhere
    Latin American
    Latina Moms In The Media
    Latina Moms In The Movies
    Latinidad
    Latin Moms
    Latino
    Latino Teens
    Latinx
    Living At Home
    Living With Our Parents
    Love And Romance
    Making Friends
    Mamacita
    Mamá Cita Podcast
    Mamas Latinas
    Mom Blog
    Mom Circles
    Mom Friends
    Mom Guilt
    Momming
    Momming So Hard
    Mom Podcast
    Moms On Tv
    Mother During The Pandemic
    Mother's Day 2021
    Movies
    Multigenerational Household
    New Mom
    New Mom Identity
    Olivia Benson
    Our Quinceañera
    Pandemic
    Parenting
    Parents Living With Us
    Patience
    Perfect Moms
    Playing During The Pandemic
    Playing With Our Kids
    Post Birth
    Post-birth
    Pre-kids
    Pre-mom Life
    Quinceañera
    Quinceañera The Movi
    Raising A Girl
    Raising Good Girls
    Religious Upbringing
    Rituals
    Romantic Love
    Sandwich Generation
    Screentime
    Screen Time
    Season Finale
    Self- Love
    Single Mother
    Spanish Language TV
    Special Victims Unit
    Stereotypes In The Media
    Supernatural
    Superstition
    Superstitious
    Super Sweet 16 On MTV
    Taking Care Of The Elderly
    Talking To Our Kids
    Teaching Kids Religion
    Television
    Too Much Stuff
    Traditions
    TV
    Valentine's Day
    Witch Doctor

    RSS Feed

    Listen to the Podcast
    Podcast RSS Feed
Powered by Create your own unique website with customizable templates.
  • Home
  • About
  • Podcast Blog
  • Connect & Stream
  • Mamá Cita Gear
  • Sponsor